Sharing a bottle of lube and a box of tissues can be the perfect way to start a romantic evening with your partner. This might be something you’ve fantasized about but have yet to try for any number of reasons. Maybe you’ve tried mutual masturbation without the porn, or maybe you’ve never tried masturbating together at all. Maybe you’re so afraid of what your partner will think of your porn-viewing preferences that you clear your entire search history every time you leave your computer. The point is that you and your partner need to be willing to step outside of your comfort zone and try something new!
We’ve all heard it time and again, communication is the key to a healthy relationship. As a couple who shares on camera and off, we would be the first to tell you that watching porn together can be both an exciting and fulfilling experience. We get that it can be a scary proposition. The thought of browsing a porn website and searching for your favorite genre in front of your partner can be daunting, especially if you’re in a new relationship. What will they think of you once they know what you jerk off to? Will they still say, “I love you,” after finding out the title of your favorite video, “Horny Cumbucket Teen Gets Pounded into Oblivion by 7 Cocks”?
The truth is, we don’t know and we couldn’t tell you how your partner will react to these discoveries. But here’s the thing; if your significant other isn’t open to your sexual interests and isn’t willing to explore their sexuality with you, ask yourself, “Can I have a healthy sexual relationship with this person?”
On the other hand, if your partner knows what kinks you’re into and is equally communicative about what arouses them, then it’s easier to find something that you can both enjoy together…while enjoying each other at the same time.
When I’m with my partner, choosing a video to watch together involves more than what will get each of us off individually. Instead, we try to find videos that arouse us both equally. We usually end up watching threesomes because we love having threesomes in our personal life. He has a thing for MILFs, but I love watching girl on girl scenes like “She’s Our Girlfriend Now”, or sometimes I’m in the mood for some teen porn, like this hot video from Maya Bijou. We’re able to find a happy medium in the “moms-teaching-sex” type of scenes. These scenes satisfy our personal interests while also assisting us in our shared threesome fantasy.
Once you find that mutual ground, you can use porn as a warm-up or even as the main event, using the scene as your guide for the night’s activities. Just always remember that porn is meant to be fantasy. Don’t expect your partner to live up to the professionals, or it might make watching porn together a little awkward.
In addition to being honest about your interests, it’s equally important, to be honest about what you don’t like. If something your partner likes makes you uncomfortable, speak up. Nothing is worse than pretending to be into something you’re not. Not only are you forcing yourself into an unpleasant sexual experience, but you’re also lying to your partner. Remember that whole thing about communication being the key to a healthy relationship? That applies here too.
Remember that it’s okay if you’re not into the same sorts of things, but it’s important to realize that you both need to determine which sexual interests are an integral part of your sexuality that you cannot live without. Evaluate your sexual relationship and decide whether it is healthy or not. Communicating and watching porn together is an excellent way to explore your sexuality for this purpose.
Knowing yourself and knowing your partner leads to better sex for both parties. When it comes to watching porn, knowing your partner’s deepest desires and fantasies can be arousing for both of you, allowing you to connect on a deeper level and enjoy porn in a whole new way. So try it out next time you guys are in the mood for some mattress wrestling; it can enhance your sexual experience and take your relationship to a whole new level!
Thanks for reading and happy porn watching,
Alison Rey and Codey Steele